Change – Letting Go is not easy

Change is not easy for most of us - after all staying nice and cozy doing the familiar feels pretty good. Although it feels good, most people don’t realize that staying on familiar ground does not produce growth. In fact it may be the beginning of death. As Gelett Burgess stated it; “If in the last few years you haven’t discarded a major opinion or acquired a new one, check your pulse. You may be dead.”

The most difficult part of Change - Letting Go!

Energy Performance Tip:

The biggest hindrance to change is letting go of old behaviors and habits to obtain new ones. The greatest benefit of change is that it creates an opportunity for new possibilities and new growth. Our responsibility in change is to be alert to those new possibilities. But, before we get to the “alert stage” we have to be aware of how our thinking and feeling interferes with change.

I’m a person who likes change, but will be the first to say that it’s not always easy to make changes, even when they are necessary. For example, when I was transitioning from my clinical practice to corporate coaching and consulting I hired a coach to help me handle the transition. I did what most people do when they make changes in their lives – I was wasting a lot of energy worrying about it. The result of the worry was my need to hold on to the security of my private practice until the coaching business provided me with an adequate income. My coach helped put this in perspective when she gave me this illustration – “Bob, it’s like you are dragging an anchor into this new opportunity. You can’t experience all the good things in your new profession as long as you continue to hold on to the old.” She was exactly right.

“Security can only be achieved through constant change, through discarding old ideas that have outlived their usefulness and adapting others to current facts.”
William O. Douglas

Energy Development Tip:

Here’s what I learned and suggest to you as you go through change.

  1. There are no terminal mistakes – if you pick a path and you find out it’s the wrong one you can always revise it. I like what Dietrich Bonhoeffer said, “If you board the wrong train, it is no use running along the corridor in the other direction. Get off the train.”

  2. We always land on our feet – No matter what you have tried, or even failed at, in life I think it’s safe to say that you always have landed on your feet. It’s amazing that no matter what happens, things seem to work out.

  3. Always look for new learning – What will I learn in this change that will make me a better person? Change creates new opportunities, new an opportunity creates new learning; look for the new learning.

  4. Apply energy in a positive way and expect positive outcomes – One thing for sure as long as you commit to fear and worry energy will be wasted. Instead, apply that energy toward looking for new opportunities and possibilities.

  5. Don’t reminisce on what use to be – the longer you hold on to the old patterns the more energy you drain. One of my clients said it best, “You can’t see a bright future through a cloudy past.

Change is inevitable! We can spend all of our energy worrying and being fearful, but in the final analysis change happens in all of our lives. Doesn’t it make more sense to anticipate the good things that change brings?

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Dr. Bob Rausch

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