Branch Rickey, the man who said, “A full mind is an empty bat,” was a Major League Baseball executive elected to the Baseball Hall of Fame in 1967. His statement echoes the fact that if your mind gets overloaded with stress, you won’t have the energy or focus to hit the ball.
His quote perfectly describes many relationships. A full mind is an empty relationship. You might ask, “Full of what?” Several things come to mind; full of anger, neglect, disappointment, unforgiveness or appreciation, loyalty, commitment, or respect. One thing is certain; whatever thought and emotion controls your mind will also control your behavior and purpose in life.
There are three types of purpose.
Positive Purpose – This purpose results in a relationship where individuals are independent of but dependent on one another. At work, the leader and the employee have their jobs to do. They are also dependent on one another to do their job with excellence. The same is true for relationships at home. Maintaining personal independence and being dependent on each other is important. In both places, you will have healthy relationships when your purpose is respect, loyalty, and commitment.
Negative Purpose – This relationship creates dependence and based on negative emotions and behaviors. A dependent relationship is where one person commits a transgression, and the other person is unforgiving. The purpose of the unforgiving person is to feel hurt and self-righteous. The transgressor feels shame and guilt. The unforgiving person rehearses the transgressor's faults, and the transgressor attempts to make up for the mistake. The solution to this relationship is to “get in” or “get out.”
Default Purpose – These relationships fail to provide consistent purpose. They react to the circumstances of life. If things are going well, they are positive toward one another. If things are going badly in their relationship, it creates negative emotions and behaviors toward one another. It’s like a roller coaster. The ups and downs of the environment create a positive or negative relationship.
How would you define your purpose at work and home? Do you know what your purpose is? It’s my pleasure to help you develop positive purpose in your life.
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In conclusion, there is an African Proverb that I love:
“If there is no enemy within, the enemy without can do us no harm.”
Dr. Bob is founder and president of Energy Driven Leader Inc. He has a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and 30+ years of experience working with entrepreneurs, corporate leaders, business owners and their teams. Using his God-given gifts, education and experience he coaches individuals to become internally strong and develop outstanding business, personal, and family relationships. www.energydrivenleader.com